Daily Affirmations

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Our True Self is within our roots

Our True Self is within our roots

  • I can say no without  guilt 

  • Today I have a new way to live 

  • I can take time to take a break 

  • I can cry 

  • I  love my inner child unconditionally 

  • I will protect my inner child 

  • Promises to myself are golden

  • My inner child is a part of me and always has been

  • We play 

  • We are creative 

  • We are spiritual 

  • We are our own loving parent guided by the essence of our true self



Crying is a sign of courage, strength, and authenticity - for both men and women. If you are male, when we were boys most of us were taught that men don’t cry. We don’t show our emotions. Another trait to unlearn! Crying is your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety and frustration. We can have tears of joy, say when a child is born or tears of relief when a difficulty has passed. In my own life, I am grateful when I cry. It a cleansing way to purge stuck emotions often held in my body. To stay healthy and release stress, I encourage my clients to cry.

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”
~ Washington Irving


Loving inner Parent

When we remove our “Inner-critic” and bring in our Loving “Inner-Parent” We begin to develop a part of us, a wholeness we have not known as adults. We are awakened with this process. The first part is recognizing a loving voice inside. The Inner Child will emerge once we establish our Loving parent. Awakening to self Love.


Suggested Reading

These books have been a game changer in my life, to say the least!


ACA Red Book

When you are ready to do this work. The Red Book will absolutely rock your world as you know it. It not only changed my life for the better, it has given me a true positive in-look on me. SELF LOVE


Practicing The Power of Now

I found this book and it literally changed my life. I highly recommend it! This is hands down one of the best self-help books I have ever come across.

If you are dealing with depression and/or anxiety, this is a good read or listen if you get the Audio Book. But you need to read it slowly, to take it in bit by bit, and actually pause to practice what he is explaining in each section to benefit from it. You can't just skim it and expect to understand it in a way that will open your life and help you experience the freedom and ease of this very moment.  I myself listen to it often. Its a big part of my life. Thank you Eckhart


 The Four Agreements

In a nutshell, the four agreements are:
The Four Agreements are very simple, but very profound. To embrace and live each of the Four Agreements is to find yourself experiencing personal freedom--possibly as never before. The Four Agreements are:
- Be Impeccable With Your Words
- Don't Take Anything Personally
- Don't Make Assumptions
- Always Do Your Best



My first inspiration to step into this recovery was with John Bradshaw



Short For the past four decades, John Bradshaw has combined his exceptional skills as the role of counselor, author, management consultant, theologian, philosopher, and public speaker, becoming one of the leading figures in the fields of addiction/recovery, family systems, relationships, Spiritual and emotional growth, and management training. John brought the phrases dysfunctional families and inner child into mainstream society. His dynamic training and therapies are practiced all over the world. A much sought out speaker, John has truly touched and transformed the lives of millions.  He was elected by a group of his peers as one of the most influential writers on emotional health in the 20th Century.’

Born into a troubled family on June 29, 1933 in Houston, Texas and abandoned by his alcoholic father at a young age, John became both an academic overachiever and an out-of-control teenager.  He later studied for the Roman Catholic priesthood at a Basilian seminary where he remained for nine and one-half years, leaving just a few days prior to being ordained.  During that time he earned his Bachelor of Arts and Master degrees in psychology, philosophy, and theology from St. Michael’s College at the University of Toronto, graduating Magna Cum Laude.  He continued his post graduate studies at Rice University and earned a Masters of Spiritual Psychology at University of Santa Monica.  Throughout his education, John was the recipient of many merit awards, including, the Trustees' Scholarship, John MacDonald Scholarship in Philosophy, Cardinal Mercier Gold Medal in Philosophy and the Trustees' Gold Medal for Academic Excellence.

During his years of study, John developed a drinking problem, and on December 11, 1965, took a drastic step—he committed himself to Austin State Hospital for the treatment of his dependency to alcohol.  John continues to celebrate that day; because that was the day he took his last drink.  John signed himself out of the hospital after six days and entered an alcohol recovery program.  Soon afterward he began to lecture at a local church, and before long, was in high demand as a counselor, teacher, public speaker, and corporate consultant.

Over the past 35 years the venerable John Bradshaw has hosted, appeared on, been interviewed on over 800 television and radio shows worldwide.  John has appeared on Oprah, Geraldo, Sally, Dr. Ruth, Tom Snyder, Donahue, Politically Incorrect, Good Morning America, CNN News, CNN-Talk Back Live, the BBC and on Sirius Radio. He has been interviewed for, or written articles for over 600 magazines (including Newsweek, Rolling Stone, People, Lears & The Hollywood Reporter),newspapers (including Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Dallas Morning News, Houston Chronicle, Boston Globe, San Francisco Chronicle, and Portland's Oregonian.)  At one time or another, virtually every newspaper in major markets in the United States has written articles about John Bradshaw.) John has been interviewed or written for special trade magazines. John has presented over 5000 keynote speeches, workshops, lectures and talks, and  over 1,600 one to two  day intensive workshops (US and Internationally.)

In the 1960’s and 1970’s, John hosted Spotlight, a weekly one-hour variety television show.  In the early 1980’s, he produced The Eight Stages of Man, an eight-part series for PBS.    With the 1986 airing of Bradshaw On: The Family, a ten-part PBS series, John became a television phenomenon.  His PBS series have gained huge audiences across the country. Since the 1980’s, John garnered huge international audiences through his television productions, workshops and series, including Where Are You Father?, Healing The Shame That Binds You, Adult Children Of Dysfunctional Families, Surviving Divorce, Bradshaw On: Homecoming (Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child), Creating Love, Eating Disorders, and Bradshaw On: Family Secrets. Through his television production ventures with PBS, John helped raise over $12,000,000 for the Public Broadcasting System.

In 1991, John was nominated for an Emmy for Outstanding Talk Show Host for his series Bradshaw On: Homecoming.  In 1996, John was the host of the nationally syndicated talk show, The Bradshaw Difference with MGM Studios.  John is widely sought as a public speaker and continues to tour the world giving lectures and workshops.

John is the author of six books, three of which are New York Times Best Sellers.  John’s books have sold over 12½ million copies and are published in 42 different languages.  His books are Homecoming:  Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child (52 weeks at #1 and 108 additional weeks on the New York Times Best Sellers List), Healing the Shame That Binds You (15 weeks on the New York Times Best Sellers List), Creating Love (7 weeks at #1 and 78 additional weeks on the New York Times Best Sellers List), Bradshaw On: The Family—A Revolutionary Way of Self-Discovery, and Family Secrets—What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You


His newest book Reclaiming Virtue-Developing The Moral Intelligence To Do The Right Thing At The Right Time For The Right Reason was released in 2009 and is published by Bantam Books, a division of Random House.

In 1999, John was honored by a group of his peers and elected ‘One Of The 100 Most Influential Writers On Emotional Health in the 20th Century,’ along with Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, Joseph Campbell  and Erich Fromm.

Throughout the 1970’s, John served as a management consultant at Drillco Manufacturing Company and as a leadership trainer at Denka Chemical Company.  He was also Director of Human Resources and served on the Board of Directors of Texas General Oil Company.  John is the developer and presenter of workshops for over forty Fortune 500 companies and thousands of evolved for-profit institutions, including Conoco, Inc., ExxonMobil, Phillips Petroleum, R & G Stone Manufacturing Company, American Automobile Association, Owens-Corning Fiberglass Corporation, The Trane Company, Texas Association Of Realtors, Ogilvy and Mather, Inc.,  Harrah’s,  Fails Management Corporation (John was considered one of the three best speakers for the industry), and Deliotte Haskins and Sells.  
He has also presented addresses and workshops for educational, professional, non-profit and social organizations since 1964, including Houston Independent School District, Baylor College Of Medicine, University of Nebraska, Harris County OB/GYN Society, Southwest Conference of the American Dental Association, Coldwater Canyon Hospital, National Association of Bank Women, Los Angeles Police Department, Pasadena Community Hospital in California, National Council on Alcoholism, the Young Presidents Organization, River Oaks Women’s Association, Junior League of Houston and Dallas, Congressional Wives’ Prayer Group in Washington, Texas Council for Exceptional Children, Harris County Medical Association, Council on Alcohol and Drugs-Houston, the Center for Recovering Families, Princeton University Psychology Department, the Student Association at Notre Dame University, and the Center for Addiction Research at the University Of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston, to name just a few.

Over 2.5 million people have attended his presentations. 

His public service includes serving on the Board of Directors and as President of the Palmer Drug Abuse Program (1981-88), as National Director of Life-Plus Co-Dependency Treatment Center (1987-1990), as the Founder and National Director of the John Bradshaw Center at Ingleside Hospital in Los Angeles (1991-1997), and he has served on the National Board of Directors of The International Montessori Society beginning in 1990.  He is an Honorary Lifetime Board Member and Honorary Chair of the Council on Alcohol and Drugs-Houston.

Since 1999, John has been a Senior Fellow at The Meadows Institute, a multi-disorder inpatient facility specializing in the treatment of a broad range of addictions. The facility’s intensive treatment focuses on drug and alcohol addiction, sexual addictions, depression, psychological conditions, affective disorders, and compulsive behaviors

John Bradshaw’s newest workshops includes current research on the brain. John’s teaches his understanding of the links between the mechanisms of the brain that underlie addiction, emotion, and mood.  He presents some of the latest neuroscientific works on human behavior, addictions and mental health in his workshop on The Neuroscience of Inner Child Therapy: Why It Is So Effective and Ways To Do It Well.

John also explores The Primacy and Neuroscience of the "Affect System”.  In understanding Silvan Tompkins’ Theory of the “affect system,” John explains the neuroscientific development that underlies the right/affective brain.  This is the part of the brain that controls anxiety, distress, and the management of our feelings.   John suggests some clinical implications for professionals dealing with mental health and/or substance abuse.

He is currently presenting material on Developing Emotional and Social Literacy detailing the developmental stages of emotional and social intelligence.  In this lecture series John introduces techniques for teaching social and emotional literacy and why it is necessary for us to thrive in our love life, family and workplace.

Also among John’s newer works are: Speaking the Truth in Love: Uncovering Blocks to Rigorous Honesty and Creating Strong Healthy Families. John focuses on techniques to uncover blocks to "rigorous honesty," based on the premise that dishonesty often comes from disowned and disliked parts of the self that are repressed and unconscious.  Dishonesty and distortion result from these unresolved wounds, as do defenses that cloud awareness and distort the ways individuals see and communicate with others.  John also discusses ways to raise one's awareness in communicating honestly with others. The more individuals can love themselves unconditionally, the more they can love others and engage in Creating Strong Healthy Families.  In this workshop series, John teaches:
    •  Learning the stages of a healthy marriage
    •  Discovering the secret of all successful marriages
    •  Allowing children to be children
    •  Learning alternative styles of discipline
    •  Exploring six different parenting skills
    •  Exercises on boundary creation
    •  Developing emotional intelligence
    •  Mirroring validating skills
    •  Conflict resolution skills
    •  Envisioning your part in creating a loving family life


Article 2

Loise Hays

It doesn’t matter how old you are, there is a little child within who needs love and acceptance. If you’re a woman, no matter how self-reliant you are, you have a little girl who’s very tender and needs help. If you’re a man, no matter how macho you are, you still have a little boy inside who craves warmth and affection.

As children, when something went wrong, we tended to believe that there was something wrong with us. Children develop the idea that if they could only do it right, then parents and caregivers would love them, and they wouldn’t punish them. In time, the child believes, There is something wrong with me. I’m not good enough. As we grow older, we carry these false beliefs with us. We learn to reject ourselves.

There is a parent inside each of us, as well as a child. And most of the time, the parent scolds the child—almost nonstop! If we listen to our inner dialogue, we can hear the scolding. We can hear the parent tell the child what it is doing wrong or how it is not good enough. We need to allow our parent to become more nurturing to our child.

Heal The Hurts Of The Past

I have found that working with the inner child is most valuable in helping to heal the hurts of the past. At this point in our lives—right now—we need to begin to make ourselves whole and accept every part of who we are. We need to communicate with our inner child and let it know that we accept the part that did all the stupid things, the part that was funny looking, the part that was scared, the part that was very foolish and silly—every single part of ourselves.

Love Heals

Love is the greatest healing power I know. Love can heal even the deepest and most painful memories because love brings the light of understanding to the dark corners of our mind. No matter how painful our early childhood was, loving our inner child now will help us to heal it. In the privacy of our own minds we can make new choices and think new thoughts. Thoughts of forgiveness and love for our inner child will open pathways, and the Universe will support us in our efforts.

The following letter from my book, Letters to Louise, may help you better understand your inner child:

Dear Louise,

I was raised by parents who had very little love for themselves or others. They rarely praised me or validated my self-worth. Instead, they continually criticized and berated me, no matter how hard I tried to win their approval. And they frequently fought violently with each other.

As an adult, I have forgiven my parents, but I find myself locked in the shame and guilt and fear I was raised with. How can I rid myself of the many messages they taught me as a child and learn to love myself?

Dear One,

So many wonderful workshops are available to you. There are also 12-step programs of every sort. By reaching out and taking advantage of the help they offer, you can place yourself in a healing environment that may be helpful. You can also go within and silently ask the Universe to bring you to the appropriate next step in your healing process. Be sincere in really desiring to move into greater understanding.

Also, remind yourself every day that guilt is merely the feeling associated with a thought that you did something wrong. Shame is only a feeling associated with a thought that something was wrong with you.

Use the affirmation: I am perfect, whole, and complete, just as I am. The more you repeat this statement of truth about yourself, the quicker you will release the past.


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